“You scream, I scream, we all scream for…Stefani Goerlich! She shows us that "being vanilla" isn't boring and bland, it's sexy and exciting! With Sprinkles on Top is the best book on understanding and navigating the world of kink that I’ve ever read”
This book is far more than the average BDSM "how-to"! With Sprinkles On Top is an invaluable resource for couples nervous about kink but eager to explore the intimacy and trust it brings. With a disarming and empathetic approach, Stefani Goerlich guides readers through custom-crafting intentional, mutually fulfilling erotic experiences while challenging bias and shame with compassion. Packed with science-backed facts, exercises, and real-world vignettes, Goerlich reframes kink for what it truly is: joyous play, adventurous self-exploration, and a path to deep connection. Whether you're looking to add a little spice or navigate the complexities of coming out kinky to a vanilla partner, this transformative guide provides the tools you need to move forward with authenticity and curiosity.
“With Sprinkles on Top is an essential read for partners who are having trouble connecting because they have different fantasies and desires. Goerlich weaves together research, clinical insight, and practical tips in an accessible and affirming style. Readers will walk away with the tools they need to explore their sexuality and cultivate more satisfying intimate relationships.”
"With Sprinkles On Top is a must-read- in fact, a positive game changer- for anyone in a couple in which one partner identifies as kinky and the other as vanilla, or simply uncertain if kink is for them. This engaging and easy-to-read book, chock full of relatable quotes and stories, is based in both science and the clinical wisdom of one of the most experienced sex therapists in the field. Throughout the book, Dr. Goerlich's genuine compassion shines through as she guides readers to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners. WIth Sprinkles On Top is a roadmap that will lead kinky people and their vanilla partners to be more understanding of one another and closer than ever before."
"With Sprinkles on Top is for everyone who has ever wondered if they, or their partner, was a pervert. Most of us have sexual desires we're afraid to share, for fear of rejection. Goerlich's newest book offers concerned readers the most important possible message: "You're ordinary." Even those of us with diverse sexual interests are, at the end of the day, ordinary people. Along the way, you'll learn critical skills and techniques on how to ethically and responsibly integrate your honest sexual desires into your relationship, with respect, dignity and mutuality."
"It's clear that Stefani has a profound amount of experience and knowledge when it comes to kink and relationships. Her fact-based approach to the topic of understanding the relational dynamic between vanilla and kinky people help inform the audience of not only the benefits of kink, but the stages that everyone goes through that may contribute to the deterioration of the relationship. From gaining awareness around secrecy to methods on practicing empathy to co-creating the love and sex that you desire, this book is chock full of healthy tips to help a person thrive. At a time where kink is becoming more mainstream, this text should be in the hands of everyone who is in kink, kink aware, or kink adjacent. Stefani's tactful offer is easily digestible and once people finish reading this book, they will feel more informed, more understood, and more reflective of the person they are and who they want to become. With Sprinkles On Top is an excellent resource with compelling content that will be relevant for many years to come and Stefani's expertise and brilliance shines vividly as a well-respected clinician in this field."